SORRY SEEM TO BE THE HARDEST THING - I

“I believe you should stand your ground and do not let him have his way this time. I don’t see anything wrong with what you did, you had every right to be upset and worried and he had no right snapping at you when you asked him for an explanation. If it takes a month or more to drive your point home so be it” Sandra said to her friend Betty.


Betty’s husband (Simon) had really upset her nearly three weeks ago when he had come back home very late. She had tried to reach him on his mobile but his phone had been switched off. She had been very worried because it was unlike him not to tell her if he was going to be home late. When he eventually got home, she had asked him where he had been and why he was just getting home. Rather than offer an explanation and an apology, he had looked at her for a good minute before snapping at her saying he was tired and didn’t need any hassle from her. She let him know she didn’t appreciate being snapped at and the least he could have done was apologise for the worry he had caused her. He didn’t reply but walked into their bedroom and started getting ready for bed. His action had really infuriated her even more and she had followed him into their bedroom demanding an explanation of where he had been and why she couldn’t reach him on his mobile. She refused to let him sleep and kept going on and on, insisting that he must talk to her. He eventually told her that his car had broken down and his mobile phone battery dead because he had forgotten to charge it the night before so he couldn’t call her. He had managed to call the road recovery company when his battery went dead otherwise he won’t have been able to get help. He said it took the roadside assistance over 2 hours to get to him and when they eventually did, they couldn’t start his car and had to tow the car home. He was quite angry with her because he felt she didn’t wait for him to settle down or ask him how his day was or showed any concern about him before jumping straight to asking him where he had been in an irritated tone. He was tired and hungry and just wanted to get some peace and quiet if she didn’t mind.

The following morning when Betty woke up and said good morning to him, he muffled an answer back. He arranged for his car to be picked up and called for a taxi to take him to work. When he got back in the evening, he dished his dinner by himself and ate alone on the dining, played with the kids before their bed time and wouldn’t speak to Betty directly. Betty felt he was being childish and decided that if he was going to act that way two could play the game. Three weeks on things seemed to have gotten worse. Simon sometimes came home later than usual and did not call to let her know if he will be coming home late. She didn’t think she owed him an apology for asking where he had been that night on the contrary he owed her an apology for snapping at her when she had asked him. She felt really uncomfortable though not speaking to him and they seem to be growing apart. He was still there for the kids at weekends but they hardly said a word to each other and during the week more often than not he came home a lot later than he usually did.

Betty wasn’t sure she agreed with Sandra. She had always believed that two wrongs did not make a right. Communication had always been key to their relationship. Granted she hoped Simon would have tried to talk to her but he hadn’t. She had never been one to keep malice this long and was worried that something so trivial had blown out of proportion. She made up her mind to talk to Simon when he got back home. It wouldn’t make her less of a person if she called the truce.

Culled from V. Tiger