Funke Akindele: Another failed Nollywood marriage. Why are Celebrities marriage failing?

Though Akindele has not personally made any public statement on the breakdown of her marriage, she however joins the class of Celebrities and artistes that have experienced failed marriages. On the list are notable acts such as Ayo Adesanya, Kate Henshaw, Eucharia Anunobi, Fathia Balogun, Monalisa Chinda, Doris Simon and Shan George. Sadly, this list will continue.

What is the problem?

When you marry for the wrong reaons; because your friends are getting married, this is bound to happen.

When you have the wrong concept of marriage, this is bound to happen; For a woman, not willing to be submissive and for a man, not loving your wife as much as you should.

When you think that you can be married and still act as if you are single, this happens.

When you marry someone who is Conservative and you are with the New Age, this happens.

When you know how to lie a lot and you are caught, this happens.

When you are married but majority of your friends are still single, this happens.

When you spend 2 years planning a Wedding Ceremony that last only for a few days and take no time to plan to become MARRY-ABLE nor for the marriage, this happens.

You may be a star and celebrity to a lot of people but at home, you are first and foremost a wife, husband, mother and father. You can't be both at home; wife and celebrity.

When you marry someone and you are thinking of someone else, this happens. 

The number one reason why marriage break-up is because of Alternative.

Where there is no Alternative, people tend to try to work things out. This does not include marriages where there is the presence of any form of abuse: Physical, emotional, sexual or psychological. These are No Nos.

If you want to have a successful marriage, try to resolve issues because they will surely arise. Keep your marriage issues personal to you, don't do a 'Kiss and Tell'. It may work for a good Nollywood film but it doesn't for a successful marriage. Don't share your issues with your friends, try to resolve them with your partner. If you need counseling, seek for it with your Minister or someone you really trust. Words travels fast.

Bring God into your marriage, it always helps. He created it, He knows how to handle it and He will if you ask for His help.

But remember, marriage was meant to last a life time not a pleasant time. The ancient vows still stands: For better or for worst. You can change the wordings but that would not change the reality.