I
have been inundated with the above question in the past few weeks and it’s been
coming from 16-year-old girls. It is however interesting to know that I have
received text messages from 20-year-olds telling me how they have stayed away
from sex, including a 30-year-old who told me she was still a virgin. How nice!
Perhaps
you think such ladies don’t exist. They do exist and I dare say they are
beautiful. Within the next few weeks, I’ll be enlightening young girls on the
true facts of sex and why it’s better for you to stay chaste.
Biologically,
sex is a medium through which higher animals and plants produce their own kind,
generation after generation. But for human beings, sex involves much more than
this; it has other forms of psychological, sociological and spiritual effects
(which will be further explained) on human lives.
Throughout
history, most religions and cultures have developed moral standards for sex.
For instance, the moral standard Christians have developed for sex can be
traced to the Holy Bible, where sex before marriage is regarded as fornication
while sex outside marriage is regarded as adultery.
These
two are considered sins and they are discussed in several passages of the
Bible, especially areas bordering on the virtue of a woman and man’s insatiable
appetite for sex. Muslims also have their own view of sex which is very similar
to that of Christians.
Many
cultures all over the world have their moral standards as well. For instance,
here in Nigeria, the Yoruba tribe attaches much importance to a lady’s purity.
In
the past, and even till date, when a girl marries a man, as soon as the
marriage rites are performed, the newly-wed couple have to go through a
procedure involving sexual intercourse (behind closed doors) to the knowledge
of family members, friends and well-wishers to find out whether the lady had
remained a virgin till the wedding night.
These
are just a few moral standards which have been developed for sex.
Today,
sex is presented loosely to the society because it is a powerful force. It is
used in many ways to attract attention. This is very obvious in the way of
clothing of both genders. Young ladies more especially find it very easy to
attract and probably seduce men in their provocative form of clothing.
Film
producers, writers, magazine and newspaper publishers know that sex is sure to
sell and any form of media which deals with it is sure to be very popular and
in high demand. So many television advertisements now use sex appeal to attract
attention to their products.
In
addition to these, the rate at which sex is hawked just like any other trade is
appalling. Prostitutes hang around waiting for prospective ‘customers’ and, of
course, they are paid and automatically encouraged. Sex is also used as a
weapon for favour-seeking.
So
many times when ladies go in search of jobs, they are harassed with sex. Also,
some ladies find it easier to “sleep their way to the top,” that is, allow
their bosses to sleep with them in order to get promoted.
In
universities and other tertiary institutions, lecturers take advantage of the
female students and terrorise them when they refuse their advances. Because of
this, so many lecturers fail their students until they budge.
Ironically,
some girls also go as far as seducing and having sex with their lecturers all
in a bid to have a boost in their grades. All these are tantamount to slavery
with one’s body.
There
are several other ways in which sex is exploited and this can be attributed to
one of the negative effects of westernisation. For instance, on the internet,
sex is discussed indiscriminately in all forms. The world is exposed to
pornographic materials and the like. A child under the age of seven already
knows so much about sex.
And
the rate at which teenagers and even youngsters toy with it is very alarming
and outrageous, and that is why an average teenager could wonder if abstinence
from it is really possible.
Dear
girls,
Your
curiosity about sex and the way your body feels is normal. However, there’s so
much you need to know which may eventually condition your mind and calm your
desires. For now, DON’T dabble into it please.
Credit: Temilolu Okeowo (PUNCH News)
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